Blessed Month

Assalamu'alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

Ramadan Mubarak everyone! Blessed to be given this opportunity again this year, alhamdulillah. Ramadan has always been one of my favourite months of the year. Just like everybody else, I have goals too. But this year is a little different. My goal isn't to khatam the Quran or pray more, or even to qiamullail every night. I just want to dress modestly. 

Those who know me, you'd know I have changed the way I dress. Yes, I notice and I know others do too. I have yet to explain why I did what I did, I don't think that needs any explanation. It just happened. Things changed, and I realized that 'change' should not be rushed. I feel like I have skipped certain phase or 'level' in my journey that made me look like I am going on a reverse mode, at some point. I miss the way I dressed, but I have not once regretted my decision. No two journeys are the same, and what I decide for myself might never work for you. 

Do note that I am still the same person I was, I haven't changed on the inside. My stand, opinions, and how I view at things are still the same. My love towards the deen does not deteriorate, in fact it grows everyday. I believe that how you dress does not determine how you are on the inside. I see a lot of Muslim women have the kindest and purest hearts despite them not covering perfectly.

However I have learnt a lot from this change. I learn to never judge people based on how they dress. They might be better than you are. They might have stronger connections to Allah than you do. Also, another thing that I learn is that, men will treat you differently based on how you dress. I can see the difference on how they treat me (first-hand experience) when I dress the way I did few years back, compared to now. Oh my god, I am truly disgusted. But yes, it truly is a lesson for me to learn. It goes back to you. If you respect yourself, people will respect you. They would not talk to you as if you are an object. Sexual object, to be precise.  

So this Ramadan, I hope to dress modestly for Allah and for myself. Whatever you wish to achieve this Ramadan, in the end, our goals are only one-- to please Allah. May Allah ease it for me, for you and for everybody else in our journey to be the best Muslim we can be. InshaAllah.